Why Do we Hold On?? When to Walk Away!!

Why do we hold on???
O.K...Here is my two cents about this!!

Why do women who give there all hold on too long?
Is it lack of self respect, self confidence????
Do they think they will never find anyone else?
Do they have an overwhelming desire to punish themselves??
Is it a desire to "fix " things?
Is it because the familiar feels safer than the unknown?

Well on more than one occasion I have held on long after I should have let go... I guess I just had to keep going back to look at it and make sure it was good and dead before I could walk away.
I don't think it is always a lack of self respect, God knows I have plenty of that!

Nope, no lack of self confidence here either anyone who knows me would say no to that!!

I don't think that I will NEVER find someone, I meet new people every day.

Familiarity... maybe, I think we all are more comfortable with what we know!

As for an overwhelming desire to punish themselves, well.. if that is the case then you need to see someone sweetie because my blog just isn't going to be enough for you!

A desire to fix things, well.. I admit to this one myself but I don't think that is the reason all hold on.

I think the reasons differ for each person and can vary from relationship to relationship.

All I can say is that we need to evaluate each relationship and try and take from it what we can. Look at it long and hard and try to find out why you stayed and what it took for you to leave ( if you did) if you didn't what did it take for you to let go.

As I evaluated my relationships I found some common traits but I also found different ones, the biggest thing in common was my level of devotion to that person, in each relationship where I had let down all walls and allowed myself to fall in love, I held on too long, once I make the commitment I have a really hard time walking away.

I think this is likely the case for most women. We can't fix people, they have to fix themselves. You can hold their hand and be supportive of them while they go through changes( if they let you) but we can't fix them.

We can't make someone love you that doesn't. Let go because the time you are spending trying to convince Mr. Wrong to love you is time you could have been spending with Mr. Right! ( or at least looking for him) Sometimes the search for him can be fun...

Guard your heart, I'm not saying never be trusting but, make sure the person you give your heart to is worth it and is willing to give you his in return. You can't hand your heart over to him and expect him to hold both yours and his! He will get tired of holding both!

Don't settle! Make sure the person you are opening up to is able to meet your needs, make sure you can meet his. Relationships where only one set of needs are being met WILL fail. It is when needs aren't being met that people look outside in different places to get those needs met. It doesn't make it right but unfortunately it is true. Make sure you a both the same caliber... meaning, you are both loving, compassionate, giving...etc..

Why do men go for the women who treat them like shit? I DON'T KNOW BUT THESE ARE THE SAME MEN WHO WHEN THEY FIND A WOMAN WHO TREATS THEM WELL, TREATS HER LIKE SHIT , SO HE DESERVES IT!

There it is my two cents on that!

Hope it helps, I know it just helped me!